ADHD is not the end of the world. ADHD is not a death sentence. Most of all, it is certainly not a foreign, unknown disorder or illness!
Yet so many people’s relationships change with their children once they are diagnosed with ADHD.
The role as parent can quickly go from being supportive, loving, nurturing, and available to that of adversarial.
Now, it’s not that love, support, nurture, and being available are no longer there. Rather, it’s just typically that the parent shifts into a more defensive role.
And who can blame them?
After all, many ADHD kids, or so the stereotype goes, get into trouble at school, with their peers, and everywhere else they seem to go. Parents now come home from a long day of their own, wondering, “What did my child do today?”
Or maybe, they spend the day thinking, “Who did my child hurt or offend today?”
This little fundamental shift can change the entire relationship pattern within a family.
What you can do:
If ADHD is new to your family,
The most important aspect right now is having a strong foundation, your family!
If ADHD is not new to your family,
ADHD can quickly seem like a major interference with your plans for life.
Find a schedule, any type of schedule, and make it work.
Build in structure to each day so that your kids will know what to expect. And remember, they have structure all day long at school.
But most of all, find a support network. Don’t just settle for anyone, because most people won’t be able to support you the way you need it, positively!
ADHD is hard. It can change lives, and families, but it does not have to.
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